Youth Workers

Sexuality is complex.

According to dictionary, sexuality is defined as one’s sexual preference and one’s sexual activity. The APA describes sexuality as “a broad area of study related to an individual’s sex, gender identity and expression, and sexual orientation.“ In these contexts, then, I am using the word “sexuality” to describe ones sexual preference (straight, gay, bisexual, etc), and ones sexual outlet (porn, masturbation, lust, pre-material sex, etc). Our culture is obsessed with a “do-what-you-want” mindset when it comes to living out ones sexuality. Therefore, to say that sexuality is complex is an understatement.

It is no longer uncommon for students to view porn on a daily basis, or to have pre-material sex and/or engage in oral sex parties. It is also becoming very common for teens (and even pre-teens) to declare themselves gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered. Sexuality (preferences and outlets) is to be explored, labeled, embraced, and celebrated by all and for all. If it feels good, do it; if it makes you happy, live it. This goes for non-Christians and Christians alike.

We live in a pluralistic world. God is no longer an absolute; instead He is a “god” among others. Biblical standards have been replaced with personal preferences and experiences.

So, how are you as a youth worker handling things? Are you talking about these issues, or are you ignoring them? How are you communicating God’s Truth to your students – are you being open and honest and pressing in, or are you giving the old “Because God says so” type of answer?

My prayer and hope is that you are beginning to elevate the conversation about sexuality, especially within your student ministry (be it middle school, high school, or college). Below are a handful of resources I’ve used, written, and found throughout my 12+ years of student ministry.