I have to admit, I have yet to get Andrew Marin’s new book, Love is an Orientation. I have read countless reviews for it – so I will be getting it for sure. And I suggest others get it as well. Though I don’t know all of what Marin has written in his book, I am sure that for the most part I am in agreement with what he does say. Especially if I were to base his book off of this quote from Leadership’s interview:
Q: Where is the best place for the church to address this issue [gays and the Church coming on common ground]?
A: “The best way to keep these young people in the church is to address the issues on the home-front. Parents should learn how to talk about same-sex attraction and homosexuality and how to live in the tension as a representative of Jesus Christ in their kids’ lives. The next best person is the youth pastor. I know hundreds of “out-and-proud” GLBT adults who never told their youth pastor about the most important issue in their lives – their same-sex attractions. If more youth pastors are trained to talk about it, more GLBT teens might feel safe opening up.” Andrew Marin, Leadership, Spring 2009.
Andrew, I couldn’t agree with you more my friend on this sound advice.
In talking with my own mom, she confesses that if she had known and understood more about homosexuality she would have reacted differently then she did when I came out to her. Parent’s need to talk about this issue with thier kids – they have to. I was watching an episode of Degrassi yesterday, and the show was about two teens who had come out to their ‘homophobic’ parents. Wow – did they bring back flashbacks. Not that my parents were homophobic, but they didn’t quite understand what to say or how to support me in being a gay teen.
So how do parents understand? They need to be informed by those who are familiar with this issue – including youth pastors, and senior pastors. How do they get informed? By people like Andrew Marin and myself – teachers who understand the realms of homosexuality, and who have huge hearts in seeing the gay community reached with the love of JESUS – nothing more, nothing less. The Church needs to be re-educated.
It is long past time for the Church to unstuck its head from sand, and face up to the gays and lesbians standing at their doors, begging to be embraced by the authentic arms of CHRIST. Mr. Marin has given us a challenge to live up to … as does CHRIST. Again, I ask the question, how will we (the Church) respond?