A Message from a Gay Sister in Christ


This post originally appeared on Hunter Baker’s blog. You must make it to the third paragraph in order to understand.

To the churches concerning homosexuals and lesbians:

Many of you believe that we do not exist within your walls, your schools, your neighborhoods. You believe that we are few and easily recognized. I tell you we are many. We are your teachers, doctors, accountants, high school athletes. We are all colors, shapes, sizes. We are single, married, mothers, fathers. We are your sons, your daughters, your nieces, your nephews, your grandchildren. We are in your Sunday School classes, pews, choirs, and pulpits. You choose not to see us out of ignorance or because it might upset your congregation. We ARE your congregation. We enter your doors weekly seeking guidance and some glimmer of hope that we can change. Like you, we have invited Jesus into our hearts. Like you, we want to be all that Christ wants us to be. Like you, we pray daily for guidance. Like you, we often fail.

When the word “homosexual” is mentioned in the church, we hold our breaths and sit in fear. Most often this word is followed with condemnation, laughter, hatred, or jokes. Rarely do we hear any words of hope. At least we recognize our sin. Does the church as a whole see theirs? Do you see the sin of pride, that you are better than or more acceptable to Jesus than we are? Have you been Christ-like in your relationships with us? Would you meet us at the well, or restaurant, for a cup of water, or coffee? Would you touch us even if we showed signs of leprosy, or aids? Would you call us down from our trees, as Christ did Zacchaeus, and invite yourself to be our guest? Would you allow us to sit at your table and break bread? Can you love us unconditionally and support us as Christ works in our lives, as He works in yours, to help us all to overcome?

To those of you who would change the church to accept the gay community and its lifestyle: you give us no hope at all. To those of us who know God’s word and will not dilute it to fit our desires, we ask you to read John’s letter to the church in Pergamum. “I have a few things against you: You have people there who hold to the teaching of Balaam, who taught Balak to entice the Israelites to sin by eating food sacrificed to idols and by committing sexual immorality. Likewise, you also have those who hold to the teaching of the Nicolaitans. Repent therefore!” You are willing to compromise the word of God to be politically correct. We are not deceived. If we accept your willingness to compromise, then we must also compromise. We must therefore accept your lying, your adultery, your lust, your idolatry, your addictions, YOUR sins. “He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.”

We do not ask for your acceptance of our sins any more than we accept yours. We simply ask for the same support, love, guidance, and most of all hope that is given to the rest of your congregation. We are your brothers and sisters in Christ. We are not what we shall be, but thank God, we are not what we were. Let us work together to see that we all arrive safely home.

A Sister in Christ

Hunter follow’s the above post with further explanation in another post here.

6 responses to “A Message from a Gay Sister in Christ

  1. Very good post… quite surprised to hear you actually call it “sin,” and you are absolutely correct in that we ALL struggle with sin. My take:

    When one disagrees, please don’t take this as HATE… it’s okay to disagree and love. I have gay friends and welcome them openly. As far as homosexuality in general, one has to look at the natural order of life and if it makes sense or not. No one can deny the social scientific benefits of having a mom and a dad – there’s mothering and there’s fathering, two very distinct roles pertinent to raising healthy children. One just has to look at what is happening to the African American family, who for two generations has seen its children raised by a two woman household, mom and grandma – no fatherly influence has plagued their society with crime/gangs, high imprisonment, and the highest education dropout rates in the country. The issue to redefine marriage is selfish at best and about what’s best for adults (benefits) versus what’s best for the children, period. No one should ever judge another and everyone should be free to love and do whatever, however, there is a reason for sound structure…society the world known upholds, religious or not. Its not about religion, but acceptable human behaviors….I suppose, under the liberal mind set, if someone wants to wed their beloved dog, who’s to place judgement…let them live their happy life, right? I’m not comparing gays to sex with animals, but as far as the liberal stance, what you allow for one group, you can’t dismiss for another, otherwise your argument is self defeating. So, where do you draw the line then? Don’t redefine marriage between one man, one woman – however, one can offer gays their dignity with sound laws when it comes to death taxes, benefits, etc.

  2. Yvonne Taylor: So true! If we as the church feel the need to condemn that particular sin then we must condemn all our own sins. If we did that….who would be left? “Well then, should we conclude that we Jews are better than others? No, not at all, for we have already shown that all people, whether Jews or Gentiles, are under the power of sin. As the Scriptures say, “No one is righteous— not even one. No one is truly wise; no one is seeking God.” Romans 3:9-11 NLT // 5 hours ago

    Elizabeth Chamberlin: it wasn’t what I expected…very good!:) // 5 hours ago

    Bev Hurlburt: I love this article. Jesus help me to love everyone as you love them. Give me the strength to not judge a persons heart by their outside appearances. Oh Lord I have so much to learn from you. Give me your wisdom. // 4 hours ago via mobile

    Jody Davison: I have had this conversation so many times with people. It never ceases to amaze me that Christians seem to think that God has some kind of ordered list of most appalling sins to most appealing sins. I think many Christians have a mental picture of a huge scroll rolled out from 1 to 1,000,000,000 listing sins from worst to best. What are the worst sins? The answer. Sin is sin. Love the sinner. Hate the sin. // 4 hours ago via mobile

    Shawn Harrison: Mind if I put these comments on the blog post? // 2 hours ago

  3. Like your answer, Ronald. As christians who follow Jesus, we shouldnt judge because He made the rules not us. All have sinned thats why we need Him. Homosexuals of both sex, liars, hippocrits, Its a fallen world which doesnt want Gods rulership. So the price is being paid by broken people….Come to Me said our Lord and I will receive you. Unfortunately most want to do their own thing. And be their own Judge
    1 Corinthians 6:8-11

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